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Saying “I’m Sorry”

OOOOh those are words most folks hate saying…”I’m sorry.”  I’ll raise my hand here too, as more often than not, I’d rather pull eye teeth out than say it.

Why is that?

Pride.  Yep, that sin that has a habit of slipping in and quietly taking over.  “I’m not wrong, he’s the one who did such and such”, or “she’s the one who owes ME an apology”, (do I need to go on?)  Pride says that the other party owes an apology, and you won’t cave in and let go until they do.  Pride says “I’m right, how could I possibly be wrong?”

But what does the Lord say about pride?

“The wicked, through the pride of his countenance, will not seek after God: God is not in all his thoughts.” Psalms 10:4, KJV

“The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.” Proverbs 8:13, KJV

“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2, KJV

“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud.” Proverbs 16:18-19, KJV

“But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble . . . Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.” James 4:6, 10, KJV

“Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble. Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:” 1 Peter 5:5-6, KJV

Pride is not one of the things the Lord loves.  We shouldn’t either.  In our daily walk, we need to keep an eye on how our heart is.  I’ve had to learn this too, and it finally hit me just this morning how I’ve been prideful in my daily life, and I had an apology to do.

Is there pride hiding in your heart?  If so, pray, ask for help in loosening pride’s grip, and seek the Lord’s working for you.  You won’t be disappointed.

Note:  all verses referrenced here are from the KJV, listed from End Time Prophecy

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Growing Home

In Good Times and Bad

Marriage is one of those relationships where you choose your partner, and you have to choose each day to stay with them.  Our vows say for better or worse, in sickness and health.  Do we really mean that at the time we say them, or are we starry eyed and dreamy?

I’ll be the first to tell you all, our marriage is not perfect.  Some days it’s a trainwreck complete with an explosion.  We are opposites, both stubborn, and then throw in children who act like us into the mix, and we have a perfect wreck.  Hubbs will yell and take things out on inanimate objects.  I will yell and go clean something.  There’s been times most of our house has been spotless in a short time, and I’ve joked that to get it done very fast, make me mad.  I think there’s times he takes me up on it.

There’s two options for us.  Stay and work things out, or let the marriage go.  Hubby is on his second marriage (I’m wife #2), I’m on my first and only.  Each day we choose not to go to a divorce lawyer.  Instead, we go visit our pastor weekly for counselling.  Some weeks are better than others.  When we put God in the middle and focus on Him, our week goes so much better, we are cordial to each other, we don’t set each other off in tirades that go nowhere, and there’s less stress.  When we forego our bible reading, praying, etc, the train derails and there’s mass casualties.

If your marriage needs help, don’t be afraid to go to your pastor and seek counselling.  Sometimes it takes an outside view, from someone who has a biblical view and knowledge, to help.  That outside view, along with biblical insight, can help diffuse situations, help us take a look at things in a different light.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

God created marriage, between woman and man.  He must be the center of your marriage, or it won’t be the marriage it can and should be.  Picture it as a triangle, with husband and wife at opposite side of the base.  If we focus on God, we can’t help but come together.  If we don’t focus on Him, we’re going to stay far from each other.  It’s up to us to decide what we want.

I am not a perfect wife.  I have many flaws.  I am stubborn.  I am strong, to a fault at times.  I see in black and white with no real room for gray.  I have high expectations, and there’s times my husband cannot (or won’t) live up to them.  I can growl and bark with the best of them.  Oh there’s more…believe me there’s more….

It’s taken some drastic things to make me step back and say..”help..”  There’s been occasions that I would walk away if I had chance.  But the Lord will not let me.  Instead He finds ways to encourage and build.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Don’t think that all marriages are perfect, based on the outward view from the pew or blog or anywhere else.  We are human, with lots of room needed for growth.

Stay focused on the Lord, and He will guide you.