No one likes rejection, that feeling that you’re not good enough…
Left out of the group…
Today for me was a hard one. I watched as my children were rejected by a volunteer at the public library. Oh, it wasn’t a major event. The kids simply wanted to listen in at the story time, and the age range was where one of the kids’ reading level is. The staff knew two of the three children and our family for years, but the volunteer for the story time didn’t, and had no clue of their special needs.
She turned all three children away.
She rejected my children, not allowing them to listen at story time in the open area of the public library. She reasoned that their name wasn’t on a register and they didn’t have a nifty handwritten lanyard and name badge in official black Sharpie.
A friend saw my tears and tackled the problem after I packed all three children back into the car, one of them in tears not understanding why they weren’t allowed to simply sit quietly and listen along with the other children. She got the problem resolved in minutes, Lord bless her!
But, no matter what words are said by anyone in the library now, the damage is done. Trust is broken. My children had been rejected.
Yes, this is a small matter, nothing major. Place it in a line with past rejections where the children are concerned, and it hurts more than it should. They’ve been rejected by noncustodial parents, by teachers, family members, friends, etc…this should have been miniscule.
When you’re a parent of special needs children, you experience rejectio a lot. It’s like it comes part and parcel at times. Sometimes it sparks anger, other times hurt. You find rejection in many places, from doctor’s offices, school, parent groups, friends, camps, school activities, public areas, family, you name it.
Why so much??
Because the children aren’t “normal”.
Because our lives revolve around different goals and dreams and realitiesthan most others.
Because the children have different needs.
Because the children behave differently (more often than not, are actually better behaved than those around them).
Because they believe in Jesus and the Bible.
Rejection is a part of life, and there’s no way to always avoid it. People will turn us away. Does it make rejection easier? No.
We may not always avoid rejection, but we can choose how we handle it. We can choose grace or retaliation, walk away or fight. When our children are the object of rejection, the notion to get even, “make them pay”, etc for hurts rises to the top. Do we have to act on it? No.
We can turn to Jesus.
Jesus said life wouldn’t be easy, but that He’d be with us. (this is taken from the Abella unauthorized version). He said we’d face persecutions, have things done to us, but He’d be there to comfort us.
Jesus knew of rejection. He understands. His own creation abandoned Him. His own people rejected His message, His gift of salvation, His life. Even God had to turn His back on Jesus at one point, on order for Jesus to take our punishment. It broke God’s heart to have to reject His own Son.
If you know Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, He will never reject you. He will never leave you nor forsake you.
When others turn away, Jesus doesn’t.
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